I have hesitated about adding this, but it feels right and if you have read any of my posts then you should know by now that I am doing what feels right, not what I think I should do.
I have a "friend" that I mentioned in one post, her name is Michelle. She is my mentor right now in my life. I feel she is the one that started me on this journey. She herself has experienced the loss of a child, and so she knows where we are all coming from. She is also a "Reader". I first visited her last year, my sister and I went together and I had mentioned a few things to my sister "in the car" on the way to seeing Michelle. One had to do with Butterflies, one had to do with the web page I have on Cafemom.
I told my sister that I have been bombarded by butterflies lately! I could be sitting outside and sometimes they would just land on me, fly off, come back, and land on me again. Other days I could sit outside and watch 3 & 4 of them all flying around us and then they would just land in front of me, and stay there!
I was working on my web page the day we went to see Michelle and I uploaded one of my home photos of a sunset picture that I love and added "sparkles" or twinkles to it. And I loaded a music player.
Well, the night we saw Michelle at the end of our reading, I asked about Lindy (Come on, don't tell me you wouldn't), and she told me a few things that just lifted such stress off of my life that I have been carrying. Then she also said, " Lindy says", what's with all the butterflies"?
I could of came out of my seat, I do remember my sister grabbing my hand and squeezing so hard my blood stopped pumping! But, then again, I was squeezing back!
The other one that no one, not one person on this earth would of known! Only Me!
The next thing she said was that "Lindy says to also tell you that she likes the "twinkles" and the music!
Now, it took me 25 years to do this and I think, my gosh, how much time I have wasted! She is there, here, with me. They are always with us.
Fast forward, Michelle has gracefully asked to help those who have lost a child. Now, I have hesitated in putting this here, because I do not want or intend to turn this site into a bombardment of Michelle. She has also lost a child, but her journey is the same as mine. She has a gift. She has said that if anyone "might" and I post this word "might" ( be sure you want to do this), some can handle it, and I think some cannot, but if you would like to see if Michelle can be your go between to your little angel, then email me and I will email her.
I am hoping she can also start posting here, give us some insight into an area we are confused on. I'll let you know if and when this happens.
God bless you all.
my email: www.janmaupin@yahoo.com
What Lindy's Legacy is all about!
Lindy's Legacy, is a place I wanted to create to bring some inspiration and uplift those who may of lost a child. I went thru years and years of grieving, I went to counseling at one time and found it really didn't help me I knew GOD was there but I couldn't understand the WHY.
I am now 25 years passed losing my daughter, and there was not much I could find in how to grieve and how to move on. I have now found how to open up, that's why I call this Lindys Legacy. I want a place that shines with the brillance of what our children left us.
We tend to mourn and hold it in and well just live with it. I think we can move on. Some slowly, as I did, some can get thru it. The absoulete best medicine I found was a group of women who have been thru the exact same thing. Although, I do believe you should try counseling if you feel you need it, some local churches have these, some have communities, I found the internet. Go figure!
I found that to relate your story to another mother "helps you heal", because there is also someone there that "needs you". This was the medicine. Give back.
As simple as that, give back.
Lindys Legacy is not a memorial place, this is a happy place, I want your funny stories, your happy memories and maybe what came out of what your child brought to you, in your life.
Of all the years of mourning, I finally came to realize that I wasn't letting all those good times be her legacy, I was letting the grief!
She shines thru me and with me. Whether she is in heaven or right beside me as I type, she is leading me, and knowing how she was when she was with me, well, I'd better follow.
You'll find my stories of what I remember and a few posts of what I remember going thru and how to get thru it.
My life has finally opened up and I am going to take as much of it as possible. Some come with me, join my journey, let's pave the way for others. Bring me your great stories, I know you have some.
If you have any questions, or links that might better us, please email me at: www.janmaupin@yahoo.com
I am going to try and add more links, so leave me some that you might of found helpful.
My motto: Have faith!
I am now 25 years passed losing my daughter, and there was not much I could find in how to grieve and how to move on. I have now found how to open up, that's why I call this Lindys Legacy. I want a place that shines with the brillance of what our children left us.
We tend to mourn and hold it in and well just live with it. I think we can move on. Some slowly, as I did, some can get thru it. The absoulete best medicine I found was a group of women who have been thru the exact same thing. Although, I do believe you should try counseling if you feel you need it, some local churches have these, some have communities, I found the internet. Go figure!
I found that to relate your story to another mother "helps you heal", because there is also someone there that "needs you". This was the medicine. Give back.
As simple as that, give back.
Lindys Legacy is not a memorial place, this is a happy place, I want your funny stories, your happy memories and maybe what came out of what your child brought to you, in your life.
Of all the years of mourning, I finally came to realize that I wasn't letting all those good times be her legacy, I was letting the grief!
She shines thru me and with me. Whether she is in heaven or right beside me as I type, she is leading me, and knowing how she was when she was with me, well, I'd better follow.
You'll find my stories of what I remember and a few posts of what I remember going thru and how to get thru it.
My life has finally opened up and I am going to take as much of it as possible. Some come with me, join my journey, let's pave the way for others. Bring me your great stories, I know you have some.
If you have any questions, or links that might better us, please email me at: www.janmaupin@yahoo.com
I am going to try and add more links, so leave me some that you might of found helpful.
My motto: Have faith!
Monday, March 17, 2008
Spiritual help
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Jan,
Thank you so much for your kind words.I can feel your heart and soul in your writings.This is the first site of this nature that dwells on the joys of having had our little angels and living in the miracle that is.Lindy is proud I'm sure,of how her mommy has turned her pain into wisdom and has reached out to many.Thank you Jan for helping all of us look at loss in a new way.
Take Care,
Michelle
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